The story of Valentinus is not a nice one, but one we carry with us. The story talks of love and loss of a young Christian man who taught a beautiful blind girl the way of Christ. He then prayed with the girl and soon god bestowed upon her the gift of sight. Valentinus was then sent to death but signed his last love letter “from your Valentine.” This story teaches us that we should live every day as though it’s our last and never forget those who love us.
For some Valentine’s Day is a hard time, they remember the love they once shared with that one special person.
However this day is a celebration of your love that has been and always will be. Some people going through bereavement may have a relapse during this period, especially if it was a special time for them and their partner. But, the key is to remember that there are a lot of people in your life that love you that are still around.
One story showed a man who looked after his mother and father. His father had dementia and couldn’t remember how special the day used to be, so the son would buy a card for his father to give to his mother. The son would then also order flowers to be delivered to the mother’s room as the father had done in previous years. Although from the outside this may look tedious to the family it was a ritual, the love of the parents was strong even when they couldn’t show it.
Valentine’s Day is about love of all types, not just for your partner, this includes friends, family and maybe even your love for your God. If you do feel alone on Valentine’s Day there is a lot you can do, you can do something with your friends, have a family meal or even do something that makes you happy, go to the spa or make lots of cakes and biscuits.
When someone’s partner is either no longer with us or has dementia the best thing to do to help is let them know they have their family. Let them know they are loved and have a network of support to help them.